How I became a vegetarian and how my mental health made me stop

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Hey. Let me tell you a story of why and how I become a vegetarian and why I had to stop because of my mental health problems.

Since I was a little kid I was never really big fan of a meat. My parents had to force me to eat it and I still eat only chicken meat. I am very grateful they did this as i got usual portion of nutrients a kid needs. I’m strongly against vegetarian or vegans parents pushing their believes on their children. Of course you can argue that it is the same what all of the other non-vegetarian parens do – pushing their meat-eating habits onto their children – but c’mon. As a parent you shouldn’t deprive your kid of anything there is that food industry offers. Is everyone’s own business but let them choose when they are old enough to understand the decision they’re  making.

As I was growing up I was more and more aware of the meat taste and how I don’t like how it makes me feel. I always described is as a “I’m not in a  mood for meat”. There was a day I would eat chicken without a blink and then there was a day when i would stare at the piece of chicken and dissect it in small particles until i would find some vein, blood or tendon and i would refuse to eat it altogether. Pork, beef or any other type of meat was never an option for me – not unless i was aware of it. Sometimes my parents would tell me that the meat is chicken so i would at least give it a shot. Tricky but this tactic would not end successfully most of the times.

My parents would always get upset with how picky I am but after some time they got used to it and didn’t try to fight it anymore.

In my 15 I started highschool far away from home and I lived in girls dormitory. There was no vegetarian food option in the dorms canteen – well to be fair there was no option at all we got one food and you eat it or you’re hungry. It was easy for me to ask them not to serve meat to my plate and instead they would aways give me more potatoes,rice or vegetable instead.

What was the biggest struggle for me was the reactions I received. It was aways always the same. If someone noticed I don’t eat meat they would ask “are you a vegetarian?” in such obnoxious way I immediately felt small and felt the need to defend myself like I was doing something wrong. I would answer “no i just don’t like meat” in small voice. Response would be well-known phases I’m sure all of you who practise some sort of diet such as ” i can’t imagine that” “wow i can’t imagine my life without meat” “really? not even a chicken?” and many other bullshits. After such pleasant conversation I aways ended up questioning myself as why i can’t force myself to eat that piece of meat and what the hell was wrong with me.

I didn’t like talking about my meal habits at all as I aways came across the same negative reaction. Vegetarian was like a dirty word, something I shouldn’t want to be associated with.

Until my breaking point. Again I was always leaning to vegetarianism but I was never really pushed by the line to actually call myself that until one day.

I always helped out in kitchen. One day I was making chicken soup and as I was holding the small body, chicken ribs in the palm of my hand and all I could think of was how it feels exactly the same when I’m hold my dog in my hands. I have Maltese dog – very small and cutest ever and size of his ribs are the same as the ribs of the dead chicken i was about to boil in hot wather and eat. I suddenly become very nauseous and i knew i won’t eat the soup. I couldn’t even taste it for seasoning. I was sick even thinking about it. From that moment i just couldn’t put any piece of meat in my mouth.

I accepted the fact that I don’t like the meat and I shouldn’t feel bad about my preferences. I was finally 100% confident in calling myself vegetarian and answering the silly questions with higher confidence than ever. I didn’t like the taste, I didn’t like the preparation of death animal parts in my hands – so what?

I made this decision of skipping meat completely at my 17- almost 18 years. It got much easier when I moved to Czech republic and start living at new university dormitory. Part of our dorm is canteen and they always offer 6+ meals to choose from and aways 1-2 meals are vegetarian. I suddenly didn’t feel like such outsider anymore. I got to meet many other people who were vegetarians or vegans and it made me feel more ” normal” than when I was at highschool. People at uni didn’t find it as strange and were more understanding.

I practised my vegetarianism for 3-4 years until I was 21 . My crucial moment was one horrible night that changed everything for me.

I’ll try to explain what went on with me and my health problems as shortest a possible but there are still few thing I just need to say and are important to my story as a vegetarian. I want you to understand why I chose to eat meat once again and that vegetarianism is not for me anymore. There is also very personal subject of my mental health described in next paragraphs.

Contains many trigger warnings and it’s probably the most personal segment I ever wrote.

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I woke up one night feeling strong chest pain, I couldn’t breathe, I was all alone in my room and I was petrified with fear I’ll die at that moment. It was seriously the worst night of my life and i kept reliving it every day after that. Few minutes passed by and i was finally able to breathe but the chest pain didn’t go away. Actually it didn’t go away for next 6 months. I was in pain ever since, my chest hurt with every breathe i took, i couldn’t lie down, i couldn’t sleep as this pain attacks kept repeating every night. I was strongly sleep deprived as i spend most of my nights wild awake focusing on my breathing. I kept trying to fall sleep sitting straight as i couldn’t lie down because the pain would increase. I visited several emergencies, doctors, i took many strong painkillers, took lot of medical tests but all of the results were the same – I’m healthy. There was nothing wrong with me except i was not ok. I stopped eating, communicating, i couldn’t visit school anymore as i was hyperventilating most of the time of day and couldn’t breath at all during the night, i kept crying like literally all the time as a way to release at least of the pain and frustration from situation i was stuck in, i keep fainting randomly and no one knew how to help me. Worst part was that almost no one from my close friends or family believed my problems. I felt so guilty for asking for help so many times. I felt like I’m bothering everyone with my crying but i just couldn’t stop it. I tried not to talk about any of it – no one believed me anyway. I was all alone and I was loosing my mind. I was going crazy.

I took 2 rehabilitation as they assumed my problem was called Tietze syndrome – meaning basically that my ribs was damaged and were causing me pain when breathing or moving. I took messages, radio therapy, laser therapy, electro therapy but none of this helped so I tried many other alternative forms of treatment. I visited several therapists, I tried healing through chakras, meditation, swimming, yoga, creams and herbs, sleeping  tea, hugging trees – unfortunately with no positive result. With every failed treatment I felt even worse and friends and family gave up on me completely. I swear to god every “get over it” “its all in your head” “don’t think about it” “you just have to fight it” “some people have it worse than you” crap shorten my life in half.

I was very weak –  this went on from end of january till august when I finally got help I so desperately needed. 7 months without proper sleep, food, on painkillers and in constant misery. This was the worst time of my life and  it was the time i decided to eat meat again. I was very weak – most movement i was able to do was move to bathroom and even this made me so tired i needed to lie down.

I was at home one day as I was having my first rehabilitation at my hometown and my dad brought home this very good smelling sausage. This was my first meat I ate after 4 years. From then I tried to slowly add meat into my daily meals. I wasn’t eating much but i tried my best to get as many nutrients i could take. I was expecting to have digestion problems from such sudden meat consumption but nothing happened. I wasn’t cured thought. I was still in pain but i felt stronger, i could walk 2 steps without feeling like fainting again.

After several more breakdowns I finally decided to visit specialist I needed – psychiatrist. To sum it all up – all this time I was suffering from panic disorder and severe depression but not one of the hundred doctors i visited could figure that out. I started taking antidepressants and i never felt better. So don’t worry I’m ok now but it blows my mind away how simple it was to get better once you overcome the mental illness stigma.

I refused to go to psychiatrist, I was convinced I don’t need that kind of help, I’m not crazy and I could never bring such shame on my family. Even though family member committed suicide before but mental health is not something you talk about at family dinner. Or at all.

I remember this day when I almost visited psychiatrist after few very bad nights. I was standing in front of psychiatrist door when this woman came by and she was talking to herself, looking straight down and shivering her hands. I turned around immediately and went home. I’m not that bad as this woman and we simply can’t be needing the same help. I was “strong” and “I’ll deal with it myself”. I was full of crap. If only i could go in that door back then i would be getting better like 2 months earlier. 2 more months of being normal and healthy human being.

Thank god I visited my psychiatrist. If you’ll think less of me now – well you should seriously rethink your life values. I hit rock bottom, felt guilt, shame and you have no idea how proud I am of myself for not killing myself even though it seamed as the only solution of how to ease the pain most of the nights. Unless you were at the same hell you have no right to judge me and if you were then I am so sorry this happened to you.

I’m still eating meat. Even thought there is still part of me that hates the fact that I’m eating animals, and all their muscles and veins. But – there is much bigger part of me that wants to be healthy and never ever go back to the nightmare I lived. If my body requires meat I’m gonna give it to it. I understand there might be strong vegetarian/vegans reading this article who would disagree with me and consider me traitor to  whole vegetarian/vegan believe, but unless you go to sleep fearing you won’t wake up, your daily accomplishment is that you took shower, ate food and simply stayed alive you just don’t know what it’s like. If you do understand what I’m talking about then again i’m so sorry.

It’s still very hard for me to talk about it but I find it easier to type it down than to actually speak up about it but it’s so so so important to talk about mental health and to destroy mental health stigma. I would love to hear your story of how you fought depression and other mental illness.

Let’s talk about it

I put myself first now with everything I have, with everything it takes.

If you don’t eat meat – good for you. If you do eat meat – good for you. Do whatever suits you. Don’t take anyones crap. In the end you’re all you got.

Take care of yourself

Thank you so much for your attention

xo Natalia

 

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137 thoughts on “How I became a vegetarian and how my mental health made me stop

  1. Great for sharing – Mental health probems are more of a stigma that vegetarianism.
    You are brave and smart. Glad you are on the road to recovery. My very best friend suffered from panic attacks for years and she will agree, no one takes you seriously or understands at all. She has to take vitamin B12 injections daily now or she gets very sick again but pleased to say she seems good whenever I see her.

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  2. Hello, Natalia. I think that you’re very strong for writing this and that you can help many people who struggle similarly as you did. It is important they hear about how you managed to find the right tools and help, and how long it can last to receive what you need, due to different reasons, from denial to lack of support and suggestions.

    I’m not sure how diet figures into it but our bodies certainly tell us if we listen. There are many signs which we can either choose to obey or dismiss.

    I’m so glad that you are doing much better. Thank you for writing this!

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  3. Hi Natalia

    You’ve written a really insightful and readable post. Thank you for your courage and candour in what you’ve written. It provides inspiration and encouragement for others facing difficulties to seek help. Your strength is admired. Thank you.

    Best regards
    Julie Hopcroft

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  4. Depression is very serious and it’s sad that even family and friends may not support those who need it. I can relate to some of what you mentioned. Congrats to you for getting through your struggles and becoming a stronger person! No shame at all in receiving mental help–ever! Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤

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  5. Hi Nat
    Glad you liked my post on the World Cup
    Just read what you had to say on the subject(s) of mental health and vegetarianism. I’m a vegetarian myself and I don’t judge you. You’re a strong person and I admire you for going through what you have, and for coming out on top. Also admire your openness. Some people have to go on journeys that no one could even start to know about, unless they’ve been there themselves. Wishing you well in your life, and enjoy your food. . .whatever it may be!

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  6. SO glad you have found your way back to health, Natalia. Also glad you have shared your journey here–sure to be an encouragement to others and offering them hope! P.S. Thank you for becoming a follower of my blog, From the Inside Out. I pray you’ll find the posts meaningful whenever you’re able to stop by!

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  7. You write English very well for a Slovak. I enjoyed it very much. Congratulations on telling the world to go to hell and doing what needed to get done. But I’m curious: What did the psychiatrist say to you that turned it around? Was it just eat meat?

    Going to a psychiatrist is nothing to be ashamed of. More people go than ever before. Many of those who don’t go probably should.

    I went to a psychologist over some relatively minor problems but problems that mounted to a great deal of depression. I kept losing things. I kept getting lost. I couldn’t leave my apartment because I kept forgetting things. I once kept track and I went four straight months where I had to return to my apartment every day for something I forgot. It was maddening. Harmless but maddening to the point where I didn’t think I deserved my life anymore. I was embarrassed and ashamed.

    My psychologist basically said I was working too much, which was true. I had to slow down. I loved my job as a sportswriter and threw all my effort into it. My personal life suffered. Then I got lucky. I got a promotion where I wasn’t working as many hours, had fewer deadlines and less pressure. My life went back to normal. I still lose things. I’m still kicking myself for losing my tape recorder on my trip back from the Republic of Georgia last month. But I lose things at the rate of a normal person, not somebody manically depressed.

    Good luck. I’ve been to Slovakia and love your meat dishes.

    (And thanks for liking my blog.)

    John Henderson, Dog-Eared Passport, http://www.johnhendersontravel.com

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  8. Good for you! You got help, you did what was best for you and now you have shared your knowledge with others so that they, too, can get help. I commend you for your strength and honesty.

    While I hate eating animals, I also need it for my health condition – and I’m bi-polar and lack of direct protein worsens the symptoms. The bottom line is that each individual must do what is best for their own health.

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  9. Panic disorder is very real and it is usually caused by some form of trauma even if a person may not be aware of that. I developed panic disorder after a sickness when I could see no solution to my illness but a clever doctor fixed the problem and gave me a book to read which showed me how to deal with a temporary chemical imbalance in the brain as a result of that sickness. My wife went through a time of panic disorder and doctors were unable to locate the cause until a more skilful doctor recognized it as a thyroid problem and treated it so that she recovered in six months and has been clear of panic attacks for thirty years now. Have they checked your thyroid and para thyroid? Anyway I leaned when I managed a large hospital that panic attacks are very common so you should not feel you are alone with the problem.

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  10. Seven months! Oh, my. By me it was two months and horrible. I could not sleep, breathing very hard, I am a lifelong dedicated carnivore [with a few exceptions]. We decided the cause may have been an allergic reaction to fragments from cut dry grass.

    Live free.

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  11. A chapter I love from Barbara Kingsolver’s book Animal, Vegetable, Micracle, called “You Can’t Run Away on Harvest Day” talks about how eating meat can be a healthy way to accept death. For myself, I try to only eat meat from sources that treat animals humanely–mostly from small local farmers at the farmer’s market. On the labels at the grocery store, I look for the “humanely raised” label before I look for the “organic” label. It’s more expensive, but that means you eat less of it and appreciate it more. You don’t need a lot of meat. Just a few ounces every other day or so.

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  12. Glad you’re feeling better. I went through panic attacks years ago and thought I was having a heart attack. I know exactly what you mean about trying to sleep sitting up. And no one understanding.

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  13. I really found your story to be important and I felt some real catharsis while reading. Though I’ve never suffered through that level of physical pain for so long I have always had mental health induced problems and pain from the time I was a child and it only started to clear up after seeing a therapist. Thank you for sharing.

    Also, OMG I totally agree! I wish everyone would just do them when it comes to food. That moment where someone looks you up and down for not having the exact same diet as them is annoying! Just do you and keep it moving. Eat what you want/need. 🙂

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  14. offended when they heard this?”

    13 He replied, “Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be pulled up by the roots. 14 Leave them; they are blind guides.[d] If the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.”

    15 Peter said, “Explain the parable to us.”

    16 “Are you still so dull?” Jesus asked them. 17 “Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? 18 But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. 19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. 20 These are what defile a person; but eating with unwashed hands does not defile them.”

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  15. Don’t ever hate yourself, that way lies despair. I’m much older than you and have been through a lot but have always tried to believe in myself. Just pick yourself up after any setback and get on with life. It’s great – not always – but still great. I have now read a few of your blogs and like what I’ve read. Good luck.

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  16. I have been a vegetarian for 17 years. It works for me. I feel healthier than I did before. I personally can not imagine eating an animal again. HOWEVER, just as much as I don’t like being judged I would NEVER judge someone else for eating meat. We have to do what works best for our lifestyles. If you love animals, don’t feel bad for eating meat if you need it, find another way to help other animals.
    I don’t see the point in all of this judgement in our society. We have to do what is best for each of us and should support each other.
    Plus, it isn’t easy being veggie. The hours my husband and I spend looking for places to eat or grocery stores who carry any kind of decent options for veggies (my husband is a major meat eater) is crazy! But, it works for me, it doesn’t for everyone…be true to yourself always and listen to your body no matter what!

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  17. I feel compelled (in a good way) to stand up and support you, to let you know that you’re not alone. Something similar happened to me, only it was autoimmune disease targeting my brain and resulting in irritability along with the depression that made me return to omnivorism. I was relying on foods like wheat and dairy that were tearing my brain apart inside, while my body was screaming for carb-free protein and fats. I finally decided it was better karma to eat the fish or chicken or beef than it was to make my life (and the lives of others around me) a living hell, which I probably was. I now eat humanely-raised, clean whole foods, without gluten or dairy. There’s no shame in eating that which promotes good health for your body and gives it what it needs. So happy for you that you found your way to healing 👏🏼👏🏼💓

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