Story behind my University dropout

Bez názvu Hey. If you happened to read one of my previous articles from my “other” category, you might know a little about me by now. For this article are important this 2 articles ” I – an artist where I explain my interest in art and connection to pharmacy and this one called How I became a vegetarian and how my mental health made me stop – very personal article explaining a lot about what happened to me in last few years.

You don’t really need to read those articles to really understand this one (even thought it would be super nice of you) as I’ll try to sum it up in here as well.

Introduction to how I got here:

As a kid I loved to draw and my dream job was to be artist. My mum is a pharmacist assistant and she used to take me to her job a lot as a kid. When the time to make my life career  decision came at great age of 15 I stood in front of the hardest decision any teenager could possibly make – What next?

Of course the inner child in me screamed “artist” but the realist in me started questioning this dream of mine. I was good at chemistry and biology, I was straight A student thanks to my parents strict nature, no B or worse were ever allowed as I would get grounded, banned TV or computer. I remember crying a lot if I did not get 100% at some test or ever got B that was way much worse. Primary school was over and here comes the next part.

Part one in my breakdown:

Because of perfect results of mine it was easy to get to Medical Vocational High School to study pharmacy as my mum did. It was the same school my mum attended, same (very old) teachers taught us both and I even lived at same girls dormitory as she did.

But I was no longer straight A student (like my mum was ) and it upset me a lot.

Looking back I’m so glad I made it and I’m so grateful I have some profession now as it is much easier for me to get a job than if I went to grammar high school, but it was hell  no matter how glad I am i went through it.

Far away from home, living on my own, school was harder than I thought and the pressure of following my mothers footsteps was noticeable.

Being depressed teenager who feels like they are failing their parents in not bringing in the greatest grades was when my first health problems started. I was stressing way too much, shaking, hyperventilating, vomiting and having my first panic attacks before almost every test.

But yeah no one else is feeling that way so I’m just weak and need to pull my shit together. I started taking pills and drops to calm me down. Worked for a bit but you can’t expect them to fix me for next 4 years.

Even the worst year (in my case 4) must end sometime and I was finally Pharmacist assistant as my mum. And check this out: WTH STRAIGHT A FINAL CERTIFICATE,

High school is over – What next ? I had all I needed to work and get paid pretty well already but as my parents ( who never went to university) wanted just the best for me and wanted to give me the opportunity to get my degree and have slightly better life I started thinking about university on their behalf.

Part 2 in my breakdown:

So proud of myself, full of dreams and great belief I could be more than just a pharmacist assistant I set myself higher goals – to be doctor or dentist. I send out 4 (very expensive) applications – 3 to Bratislava – to medical, dental and pharmacy school and 1 to Hradec Kralove – pharmacy.

I attended every entrance exam which I studied very hard for and paid a lot of money for extra tutorage.

But the results that came was not something I was prepared for. I wasn’t good enough for any of them.

I remember me and my classmates were at this cottage in forest having our last goodbye party when the results came and not one af us who send out application to Charles university in Hradec Kralove pharmacy got in.  We all cried and got so drunk that night.

But that was not the end for me –  I refused.  I send out appeals back and waited if they could find one more spot for me if someone from the students already accepted would choose not to study there.

Me and my family were at family holiday in Bulgaria at that time when I got letter from Charles university stating that they reconsidered my application and decided to accept me into their school. I remember my mum coming to my room with tears in her eyes and hugging me saying I got in. That night we got drunk as well.

Funny thing is I never really wanted to send my application to Charles university. I did not want to study pharmacy anymore, U had it enough for the last 4 years and I was interested in something new now. But my parents convinced me to send it there as a safety in case I did not get into the school I actually wanted – medicine. But when I found out I got accepted to pharmacy and seeing how happy my parents were I was actually relieved i did not disappoint them again. I convinced myself that this was my destiny and i am supposed to be pharmacist with Mgr. degree. This is what i want from now on. No one other from my class got accepted there so i was facing moving to different state and studying at old famous university all by myself.

Part 3 of my breakdown:

I was 19 and starting university right after high school. After my stress related problems I was very worried how would I manage university that was supposed to be way more stressful that any high school exam could. But for my and my family’s great surprise i was OK. No panic attacks no stress. I should have known something was odd as i was feeling nothing at all. No stress, no worries, no pressure, no excitement no nothing. But i was too busy studying, making new friends, exploring new country and of course as any first year at university – partying.

I was passing my exams quite ok, some at first and some at third time. But there was this one I did not make – Organic chemistry 1. It was very upsetting for me cuz I knew I understand this subject very well and I was teaching and explaining it to my friends, who all passed it but i couldn’t pass my own exam. I was always missing 0,5 points.  If i did not pass this subject i could not take Organic chemistry 2 exam and some other subject related to that so I would not have enough credits to get to second year. So what I and many other students before me did in this situations is this:  quit your first year, send application to school again, pass entrance exam and get accepted again, go to first year again, ask for acceptance of all your already passed exams and focus on organic chemistry and subjects from second year. That’s what i did – i was first year student 2 years in a row on paper but i was studying second year with rest of my classmates.

I tried to screw the system but in the end system screwed me.

At this time something in me broke and things got pretty messed up. Now would be really good if you could read whole story of my mental health issues in HERE. But to make it short I was going from doctor to doctor for around 6 months – final diagnose : Panic disorder and severe depression.

I missed most of my lessons and couldn’t attend exams. I ask my school to excuse me from my duties as I had health problems but they refused to accept it as a valid reason to miss school and even thought I had enough credits for next year they simply send me to “middle year” I was no longer first year nor second year even thought I had most of second year finished. I was pretty angry as I hit rock bottom for this school, spend 2 years of my life there and they still treated me like nothing.

At the beginning of 2017/2018 school year I’ve spent most of my time at home as we were building new house and I was helping out a lot. Second part of semester  I found part-time job at KFC to earn some money and spend time as I was having only one class at school every 2 weeks.

Bussy with my part-time job and blogging job I tried to spend all of my free time studying. Unfortunately  ( or maybe luckily ) few days before my exams my notebook broke down with all of my notes,books and other study materials. Obviously I failed the test and even thought I still got one more chance to retake it, no one from the professor would set another term for us so basically got kicked out of university and I never felt so free.

There is still chance for me to send out application for first year again but honestly I don’t have the nerves for any of that crap anymore and study 5 year school program for over 8 years and pay shit ton of money for it. I don’t have interest in being tested anymore.

So I quit.


How do I call it? Destiny? God’s plan? Failure? My stubborn refusal to quit no matter what sigh was thrown into my way ?

God send me clear message when I did not get accepted to university but I said: “No God I don’t like your plan I’m gonna do it my way”. Then after first year he said: “Natalia listen this school really is not for you and you should quit” And i was like ” Nope, you’re  wrong, I’m gonna try it again and make it this time” God: “K – Here have depression – will you quit now?” Me: “Eh.. nope?Let’s try it again” God: “How many times do they need to kick you out for you to realize this is not what I have planed for you? Me: “Well i guess you’re right I’m gonna quit now”

It took me a while to sort my life priorities intro right order and put myself, my happiness first.  It took me 3 years and several suicidal thoughts to realize I can’t keep living trying to make everyone around me  happy except for me.

I appreciate everything my parents did for me and I tried to give back and did everything they wanted me to do but in the end I’m studying for myself not my parents. Of course they are so disappointed in me and ashamed for being uni dropout but they are also ashamed to have depressed daughter, still think I’m making it all up, don’t approve of any of my life choices, critical of my work, art, blog or fashion brand im currently creating. Maybe university degree will finally please them but I’m not gonna risk my health for possibility of my parents approval. They need to say goodbye to daughter they dreamed to have and try to settle for daughter they have.

I could write down all of the cheesy self empowering quotes and be all sloppy about new-found point in life, but I cringe at just thought of that. Here is the list of stupid questions I got asked so far and my answers:

Won’t you regret it when you’re older?

Maybe but it’s what I want right now. I never really planed my future before as i never believed I could have any, I always assumed i would die till I’m 25. Now i don’t plan for future cuz there are just so many things I want to do and have the opportunity to do I can’t limit myself in something simple like “plan”

I don’t even regret not quitting sooner. If I quit earlier I might never fall into such health problems but I would also never met people I met, friends i made on the way, blog i created, countries i traveled and i would probably not be in this clear and free state of mind.

Couldn’t you just keep it for few more years?

No. Last year I thought I was gonna die for real and realized I’ve spent majority of my life worrying about school. I’ve learned so much about myself and I learned how to listen to my body as it knows best what I really need.

What will you do without a degree?

I’m pharmacy assistant, I’ll work in pharmacy.

You would earn much more money if you finish university.

(Not really a question) Yeah I’ll probably miss the money, but I have blog, sponsors and own fashion brand as an extra income so I think I’ll be fine.

You  wasted 3 years?!

Let’s talk about definition of “wasted” for a bit. I believe we all have different definition of this word as we all consider useless something else. I’ve spent this 3 years studying, making new friends, working, traveling, reviewing, writing, creating, changing and growing as a person and if you consider that time wasted because I don’t have 3 extra letters in front of my name I can’t really fight you on that.

You give up too easily. Every other student made it.

Do I? Really?

I don’t have the strength to explain how we are all individuals with different abilities, interests and qualities anymore.

Let me just tell you that every year Charles university accepts around 500+ students to first year. Fifth year and degree get 50 people a year. Yay school system.

What now?


Why am I writing this down? I don’t want you to feel sorry for me, judge me or anything even thought it’s ok if you do. I just want to show how unpredictable life is and you can have planed every single aspect of your life until it all comes crumbling down so you can build something better.

If you are student, truly interested in what you study I wish you all of the luck to do what makes you happy.  If you are uni/college drop out like me I wish ou all of the luck to do what makes you happy. Take your own time and pace.

Comparison will kill you.

Thank you so much for your attention

xo Natalia







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Natalia 22 Slovak. Read about my passion for fashion, travel and personal experiences.

62 thoughts on “Story behind my University dropout

  1. Great post! From my point of view, studies and money are not everything in this world. We, as souls, are more important than those. I mean it is more important to find out what resonate with us and to follow those things, our passion even if it will be difficult. You had courage to quit without spending time doing something that did not resonate with you. Nothing is wasted in our life, but everything is for our growing, for everything happens for a reason even if we cannot see that from the begining. Congratulations for your courage and wish you all the best with your life!

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  2. I took a year out to work before attending university, and it’s one of the best decisions I ever made. I still decided to go and enjoyed it, but it made me I think more ready for university and how challenging it can be. Working in higher education now I look at some of the students we have come to uni and think ’18 is far too young to go to uni for so many of these students.’

    And! Not everyone is suited to academia anyway. And very rarely do people who go to uni, stay in that vocation their whole life (unless I think it’s very specific like medicine…). My sister did horticulture at college and how she’s a nurse. Brother did IT engineering and now owns his own handyman firm and lays tiles. There is always an option to go back later in your life if you want to, but university isn’t the be-all and end-all of everything.

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  3. wow. i’m in the 3rd year of my 5 year degree and i hate it. but then i’m not entirely sure what i want to do with my life and don’t have anything i am passionate about. i dont really have a job too. there is probably not much i can do except try to finish the degree.
    i have one question though, why didn’t you pursue arts?

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  4. Natalia, I love your story.

    I am 28 now and a web designer (WordPress expert), I also dropped out in my final year – my 5th year in the University.

    If I had never dropped at, I may never have been able to get to where I am today. I may never had met you.

    I liked that part you said “I don’t even regret not quitting sooner…..I would also never have met people I met, friends i made on the way, blog i created”.

    That is true. Sometimes there is a temptation to start to think that you wish you did this or that earlier, but we forget that if we had done whatever it is earlier than it happened, we might never had met the people and done the amazing things and decision we took, just like you in your own case.

    You are a success story now. I am just in love with you and your stories.


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